UNEARTHING OUR NARRATIVES
“We are the stories we tell ourselves” – Shekhar Kapur
Most people know me as the consummate traveler, forever espousing my fundamental belief that travel is the most tried and true way to enlighten our minds and expand our spirits, often in ways that we least expect. It’s one of the most important things we do in life. However, the few that wade through the chaotic creativity in my life know that I sometimes prefer to spend balmy nights sipping wine and smelling the ocean breeze on my own patio. Despite the numerous, and sometimes extended, excursions to hamlets and islands I’ve long-since forgotten how to pronounce, I’ve always loved spending time at home…that’s a simple reality of mine. Even as a young girl, I really enjoyed my time after school painting, for the years I’d plan to grow up to be an artist. It was the best homework ever, as it sculpted the ability to tell a story through my pieces, and ultimately shaped my career in design.
Today, I seek refuge split between Stateside in Laguna Beach and Europe, one foot in the countryside of France and the other in the city of Barcelona. I had rarely been to California, and the few visits were usually for whirlwind days of back-to-back business meetings in LA or San Francisco. Deciding to move to Laguna Beach sounds alluring, but in some ways, was like being trapped in paradise. The pace and style of business life was different here, and there was a totally different life-feel with the sudden separation from my family, social circle, and business network. Unexpectedly, being in Laguna and the social isolation juxtaposed with the propinquity to beaches and the ocean afforded a new found freedom. It was the freedom to observe and to experiment as an artist of my own design, to take control of the personal narrative, and to discover and develop previously dormant aspects of my own creative voice as a designer.
I’ve been able to reacquaint myself with the great poets and how their writings effortlessly capture the mood and the essence of a woman. In designing collections, I’ve always been focused on the interplay of physical, emotional, and spiritual experiences, and how they are expressed through a woman’s personal growth and self-awareness. Lately, I’ve also come to appreciate my design work as a storytelling medium, and the poetry has found its way into my designs. How a woman chooses to dress and communicate herself to the world is inextricably woven into articulating her personal narrative- more so a strong, free-spirited mood that is so much more than just a look – it’s about how it makes you feel. That’s not to say that changing our lives is as simple as changing our clothes, rather, it can be as simple or as excruciatingly difficult as changing the script in our personal stories.
The stories we tell ourselves reflect our belief systems, insecurities, and aspirations. In many ways, we become the story, whether negative or positive, self-defeating or productive. The revelation is that each of us is the guardian of our own story, and the nature of our personal narrative is fundamental to who we are and who we become. Our time in this world and journey through life can be viewed as the interplay of our personal paths with those of others. It’s metered by those moments of confluence where we follow the same paths with our loved ones, friends, and strangers – no matter how fleeting or extended, banal or emotional, negative or positive, the experience is what matters.
Some of my fondest life moments and travel memories were borne of communal gatherings around sharing food, libations, and time and laughter with relative strangers. I’ve found that happiness is when these once-strangers-now-friends always call on your birthday. It’s these small expressions of kinship, these genuine gestures that enrich our days and remind us why each day is truly a gift. I’ve started to host dinner parties in Laguna as an outlet for conversation in an offline world , planting new seeds whose roots are just beginning to germinate and grow the foundation of an eclectic community of business people, artists, media types, and spiritual and physical health seekers. Not only does this allow me to ease into a new family but provides me the opportunity to share my experiences from travels and the skills I was taught by locals. Its satisfying to know that what I create and serve, pleases someone else. At the core, it’s about the power of a shared meal that’s centered around the simple love of food and about the simple interactions leading to lasting friendships that can’t be reduced to pixels on social media. It’s about embracing an emotional luxury of connectedness.
I view life now as a quest for wholeness, not just happiness. It’s about the series of choices that we make along the way, a combination of the joys and sorrows we experience, the friends and family who come in and out of our lives, and all the while staying true to yourself.